The phenomenon of the “slut” in Hindusthan

My motivation for this post was Smt Laura Wood’s excellent post on the subject of Female Immodesty and its Effects.

Readers might have come across the following observations from liberals and feminists when the Mangalore pub incident broke:

1. Desperate thugs

2. Ugly no-goods waiting for an opportunity to grab a woman

3. Lousy lechers who would never have otherwise dreamed of touching good-looking women

4. Losers

5. These assholes want to deny others the fun they cannot have

6. Etc, etc

The “pink underwear” campaign that got started as one reaction to this incident also revolved around the theme of, “I know you want to – try mine”.

The bare-to-dare culture amongst young women in urban Hindusthan seems to have tentatively arrived. From most indications, it appears that parents acquiesce or are in the dark about such behavior. The latter condition seems to be in majority.

Our society being male dominated and the male not really willing to let go (of his power) that easily; repercussions would not be pleasant. I’m not advocating anything here, but simply making a pertinent observation based on facts. On the other hand, a certain amount of emasculation also has occurred amongst a minority of Hindu males, largely due to the “aggressive slut” phenomenon. (It’s funny. There is talk of a generation Y and that’s because the kind of trousers/jeans worn by the young partially reveals their butt-crack that takes the shape of the letter Y). It can happen that humor such as this may yet help limit frivolous behavior to the barest (no pun intended) minimum population.

I also observe another kind of change, a desirable change in Hindu women who call themselves “liberated” after their American sisters. That change alludes to a certain assertion of identity/personality whilst at the same time acknowledging  boundaries. One would be hard-pressed to see these women in revealing clothes and suggestive body language; in short, behaving irresponsibly. These women feel comfortable with mild feminist “language” but at the same time hold themselves from going over fully. They still speak and desire of a good, hard-working husband, children getting educated and family life in general. Yes, there is a distancing from in-laws that can be observed in these women – that’s largely due to working women, but the damage is minimal. The larger family stays in touch somehow.

The issues of easy divorce decisions, single “parenting” etc are directly related to working females. Still in it’s infancy there is little hope that they (these issues) will actually accelerate their pace given all the ready information available about the negative impact of such “progress”. The innate aggression retained in the Hindu male will also act as a check.

I also feel there is an undercurrent of reason-from-awareness in Hindu youth of today. My own niece who is 15, is hardly enamoured of the “slut brigade” and stays pretty sober. The percentage of those who feel the way she feels is still good. I’m speaking strictly from personal observations only.

Constant and frank communication with facts based reasoning is what will ultimately clinch victory, for everybody’s good, in this ongoing never-ending debate. That’s a paradox isn’t it?

– Namaste 

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2 Responses

  1. I don’t understand one thing. A bunch of guys beat up a bunch of boys and girls at a pub. It was strictly a law and order problem. The solution to that problem was to put those bunch of goons behind the bars. It is that simple. What was the need to bring in the ‘sexist’ angle to that issue?

  2. It might have become cliched to say this, but though I personally do not like the redundant taunting through one’s sexuality (the slutty attitude), I would never approve of the violence involved in the pub’s event. And in fact, I believe most of the points you mentioned in the post preceding your “etc.” to be true.

    But I have an entirely different way of looking at it: people imbibe different aspects of same cultures they are exposed to. What aspects of which culture are imbibed by a certain person allow me to filter out people of weak convictions. Those who indulge in needless display of sexuality are insecure people who determine their own worth only by number of people whose attention they are able to grab. Thanks to their explicit declaration through their conduct, I would avoid associating with them. So here is where probably your and my outlook differs. You (might) want such people to change their conduct, whereas I take it as a subtle indicator of what kind of persons they fundamentally are, and rather let them be!

    In that sense this polarization in the society is good.

    But of course, there are few of your ideas in the post that I do not subscribe to. I understand there are going to be many differences between your and my outlook. What surprises me, though is you and I share our opinions on many issues but (possibly) for different reasons.

    You might want to read a post from me that had generated very aggressive debate:

    http://ketanpanchal.blogspot.com/2009/08/do-i-deserve-pink-chaddis.html

    As you can see, I was severely outnumbered by people who had disagreed with me. 🙂

    Another post related to the “bindass” culture.

    http://ketanpanchal.blogspot.com/2010/02/error-of-judgment-and-judgment-of.html

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